Dear Bunmi, Why are men so fixated on watching food? In spite of the fact that my boyfriend of nine months knows how I feel about food, he still insists it’s not as smutty as I said it was. He keeps begging me to watch before I make up my mind, but I still believe it’s disgusting and a pervert way of having fun. What do you think? Love Love Denike, by e-mail. Dear Denike, These days, young women may feel pressured to like food, as if it’s a pre-requisite for being sexually confident. But while some women find food arousing and educational, others think it is demeaning or just plain unsexy. More than one woman has written that when her partner looks at food, it makes her feel like he’s not satisfied with their sex life. In the vast majority of cases, that’s not true – for most men I’ve talked to, food is just fantasy, not a reflection of how he feels about his partner. Whatever the reason for your dislike of food, you need to let your man know your fears. If after discussing it with him you want to experiment, start with mild food. If you’re still turned off by food, you have every right to ask him to watch it on his own and keep it out of sight.
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